Nathan Newby set to receive George Medal for stopping a potential atrocity with an act of kindness

Nathan Newby set to receive George Medal for stopping a potential atrocity with an act of kindness

A hospital patient who managed to talk a man out of detonating a bomb in a maternity wing said the would-be attacker “asked for a cuddle” before standing down.

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    3·
    57 minutes ago

    Well, I’ve talked two mentally ill neighbors out of stabbing each other before, had to physically get between the both of them, where they both had knives… but that takes the cake as far as conflct de-escalation goes.

    This is the guy you want training the police.

    Not ex-IDF mercs, as is shockingly common.

    • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
      2·
      59 minutes ago

      I think we need to not worry about how effective it might be but just implement it and see. Its to important. Also we can fund it with money taken from the military budget. We need to literally make love and not war.

  • chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.worldEnglish
    115·
    18 hours ago

    It’s fucking real. People, and not just men, but people in general, need more attention. It doesn’t have to be physical, not everyone wants that, but just a simple, genuine, “Hi, how ya’ doin’?”

    • Scubus@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      21·
      2 hours ago

      I appreciate the sentiment, but from my learning it seems more likely we just need to start teaching men how to live a life of solitude, no one really wants us around.

      • Fluke@feddit.ukEnglish
        7·
        2 hours ago

        Then your learning is teaching you bullshit designed to isolate you and push you yet further into the toxic masculinity circlefuck.

        It’s true that no-one likes a misogynistic, self-entitled prick though. If you were actually suggesting that you’re upset that that shit is largely seen for the pathetic attempt to hide one’s inadequacies and insecurities that it is, you won’t find as much sympathy for that as you hoped.

        • Scubus@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          1·
          16 minutes ago

          Wow, that was a lot of assumption in a small package.

          Then your learning is teaching you bullshit

          I cant directly refute that admittedly because thats something thats more confirmed or denied through direct experiance. That being said, my direct experiance through my entire life would seem to refute your point.

          designed to isolate you and push you further into toxic masculinity

          Thats much easier to refute.Unless you are stating someone designed my life(which there is an argument to be made, thats why i hate capitalism) then no one designed my education. School had 2 classes in my entire education that actually taught me new information, other than that I am entirely self taught. The differance is that I seek out all information at all times, even information that conflicts with my beliefs. Devils advocates are important because they point out falicies, but I will admit i dont appreciate people genuinely holding atrocious views.

          It’s true that no-one likes a misogynistic, self-entitled prick though.

          True

          If you were actually suggesting that you’re upset that that shit is largely seen for the pathetic attempt to hide one’s inadequacies and insecurities that it is, you won’t find as much sympathy for that as you hoped.

          Well, im not entirely sure what “that” is but its safe to assume “that”'s not the case. Im… not really going to waste much time really paraing out what you mean here since its clear there has been a misunderstanding.

          The few friends that I do have are effectively siblings. They quite literally have the keys to my house and free reign to everything I own. I would open up to them about anything, and they are the exact same way with me. I am completely open to sharing things with strangers, and I am open to having strnagers open up to me. Im not super great at comforting people unfotunately, but I am a great listener and from what I can tell a rare few enjoy that.

          The issue is that that has lost me an incredible amount of potential friends. Ive had friends for years, and when they have a bad moment I ask if they want to talk about it. Men think thats gay and distnace themselves from you, women think youre flirting and want to get in their pants. Everyone oreaches caring about others, but everytime I ask how people are doing they just say “im good” no matter what. When I give any indication that I actually care, they think im flirting. Thats why I dont flirt, its fucking annoying how basic empathy is seen as disgusting.

          I try to come up with solutions and it seems the general response i get both online and in person is that women are just over men. Its not their problem anymore, and quite frankly thats fair. Men dont want to bond with other men, and theres this little thing called consent that prevents me from forcing my beliefs on community onto others. So… no community. No one wants my input, no one wants my problems, no one wants me around. Im not really interested in sympathy for that, this isnt me throwing a pity party. Its… fine. Its not great, its not terrible. I just need to look out for myself, do what I can, help those I can, and accept when my help simply isnt wanted. Im never going to force my beliefs on anyone, but if you attempt to take my rights or force me into servitude I will certainly defend myself. If someone wants me in their life they can make that known, but let me tell you, it would be a losing bet. The only reason this post exists isnt because of manosphere bullshit. If you think they care about you, you missed the entire point of this method. This post exists because its the hard truth. It doesnt make it easier, but it does save you a lot of misguided effort.

  • foggy@lemmy.worldEnglish
    821·
    18 hours ago

    That’s… Depressing.

    Quick, someone tell Trump about the George Medal. Say it’s the biggest award.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      1 hour ago

      He needs what psych wards should be, not necessarily what they are. At the moment he would’ve benefited from one though. Psych wards are currently often a traumatic experience designed to keep you alive and not hurting anyone and to ideally set you up with resources at the end.

      As they currently stand, a person who is isolated, struggling, and feeling suicidal or homicidal in that mental space going to a psych ward is likely to go in, spend a few days calming down in an isolating and uncomfortable experience, and be returned to the life that led them there. Situations like these are ultimately different from mental health crises that can be solved or have their start pharmaceutically or with medical intervention, which is where modern psych wards excel. This needs to be seen as much more similar to a suicide attempt in nature in order to stop situations like it before they happen